The secret that’s keeping Gemma Collins and James Argent together

With former TOWIE couple Gemma Collins and Arg more loved-up than ever, friends reveal reasons behind their ‘unbreakable bond’.

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by Daisy McClure |
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They’ve endured countless splits throughout their rocky eight-year romance, which has arguably made them the most on/off reality TV couple in showbiz.

But their relationship appeared stronger than ever last week, as a love-sick James “Arg” Argent, 32 – who recently returned from his latest rehab stint in Thailand, showing off his weight loss after a lifestyle overhaul – confessed he was pining for Gemma Collins, 39, as they isolate in separate homes.

Proudly referencing her latest ITVBe show Diva On Lockdown, Arg posted a photo on Instagram of them snogging in Paris, writing alongside, “Lockdown absolutely sucks without you GC but I understand you have to entertain the nation and put a smile on people’s faces at this difficult time! #imissyou”, adding a broken-heart emoji.

It is the latest in a spate of gushing Instagram tributes he has posted to his girlfriend, while she hasn’t posted a snap of him in months, signalling a distinct turnaround from the once uncommitted toyboy who repeatedly rejected Gemma’s love during their first five years of romance.

Fans had urged her to dump her troubled lover after he publicly humiliated her on numerous occasions, from saying she had “more rolls than Greggs”, to uploading videos of her snoring. She was also said to be “worried sick” by his constant partying and drug and booze binges, which led to her calling an ambulance to his home to check on him in October, shortly before he entered rehab.

Despite her notoriously feisty character, she appears to have repeatedly forgiven Arg’s wrongdoings. After insisting she was a “strong independent woman” when she ended their relationship “for good” in October, she was snapped on a romantic holiday with him in Dubai just weeks later.

Now, friends reveal the reason she always returns to him is because the “deeply spiritual” star believes their history and understanding of each other has made them soulmates.

A source tells Closer, “Gemma often describes their connection as a magnetic force that keeps them together. Their chemistry is electric and they also have a solid friendship with humour at the crux of it.

“They have been through a lot of highs and lows, which has brought them closer and allowed them to show and share their vulnerabilities with each other – it’s created an unbreakable bond between them. And it isn’t always drama between the pair, as some people may think. When they’re good, Gemma insists there is nobody in the world who can make her laugh as much or feel better about herself than Arg.”

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Harry Derbridge, 20111 of 26
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Harry Derbridge, series 1- 3 and 12

Harry Derbridge was a Towie original and still holds a very special place in our hearts. He made a welcome return to the show as Bobby Norris's love interest but, allegedly, cheated on him.

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Harry Derbridge, 2018

Harry now works it as a make-up artist. Is it us, or does he look like he might have had a little help with lip fillers?

Maria Fowler3 of 26

Maria Fowler, series 1 - 3

Maria, on the left with Joey Essex and Chloe Sims in 2011, was in the show from the get-go but her TV career was rocked when it was alleged she'd worked as an escort. She's since said she quit 'by mutual consent' after she refused an on-screen romance with Mick Norcross.

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Maria Fowler, 2018

Maria's now a proud mummy, engaged to be married and a self-proclaimed permanent make-up artist.

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Dan Osborne, series 8 - 14

Dan Osborne, pictured here with James Argent in 2013, managed seven series on the show. He was given the boot after a series of recordings, claiming to show Dan being verbally abusive towards his ex-girlfriend Megan Tomlin, came to light.

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Dan Osborne, 2018

Dan is still in the spotlight due to his relationship with ex-EastEnders star Jacqueline Jossa. In May 2018 he described their marriage as "unhappy".

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Amber Dowding, series 18 - 21

Amber was part of a mega cull of seven Towie characters in January 2018. She claimed that she and her boyfriend Chris Clark were cut because they were happy. They've now split and Chris has reappeared on the show.

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Amber Dowding, 2018

If Amber's social media is anything to go by, she now appears to mostly be on holiday. Pretty goals from where we're sitting.

Mike Hassini9 of 26

Mike Hassini, series 16 - 18 and 21

Mike Hassini brought a hot bod to Towie and...not much else. He was cut in January 2018 due to a lack of storylines as he was loved-up outside the telly show.

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Mike Hassini, 2018

Mike is working as a PT, still loved-up, and still has a very hot bod. He has subsequently appeared briefly in gym scenes on the show.

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Jack Rigden, series 20 - 21

Jack Rigden tried hard, so hard, to make an impression on Towie but his lack of on-screen romance and agg saw him get very little camera time. He was part of the big cull of January 2018.

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Jack Rigden, 2018

Jack's Instagram bio describes him as an "absolute geezer". Which is nice.

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Jordan Brook, series 20 - 21

Jordan and Jack were brought in as friends of Megan McKenna. When she quit, they were left without any storylines.

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Jordan Brooks, 2018

Jordan is now dating Sofia Filipe of Ex On The Beach fame. Aww.

Ricky Rayment15 of 26

Ricky Rayment, series 4 - 14

We still think very fondly of Ricky. His rocky relationship with Jess Wright was a huge part of the show but when they finally broke up, well... Ricky left the show "by mutual agreement"with Towie bosses.

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Ricky Rayment, 2018

Ricky now seems to mainly go fishing.

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Tom Pearce, series 5 - 13

Remember when Tom Pearce dated Lauren Goodger following her split from Mark Wright? That was an odd time. He was quietly shown the back doorof the show in 2014.

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Tom Pearce, 2018

Honestly? We're not 100% sure what Tom is actually doing these days. He used to work in the City, and his holidays certainly look pretty epic, so maybe that.

Grace Andrews19 of 26

Grace Andrews, series 11 - 12

Grace almost had a romantic relationship with Lewis Bloor (shudder) and that was the beginning and end of her time on Towie.

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Grace Andrews, 2018

Grace is now involved in a semi-permanent make-up company. Those Towie stars must really hate cleanser.

Fran Parman21 of 26

Fran Parman, series 11 - 16

Fran's original romantic interest was Tom Pearce but he stepped aside to allow Diags to woo her. Bad luck. Their relationship was turbulent but apparently not turbulent enough for show producers. Diags stayed, she went.

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Fran Parman, 2018

Fran and Diags split and she now hangs out in clothing that does not look very practical.

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Jasmin Walia, series 1 and 7-17

Jasmin managed eight series until she was given the boot. In 2015 her agent stated: "TOWIE is very storyline dependent and Jasmin did not have much going on that we could show on screen."Ouch. She went on to audition for The X Factor. It did not go well. She also took part in reality show Desi Rascals, that lasted for one series.

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Jasmin Walia, 2018

Jasmin is still being papped, which is more than can be said for some of the other ex-Towie stars.

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Jake Hall, series 14 - 17

Jake's time of TOWIE was mainly characterised by him being mean to our sweet Essex princess Chloe Lewis including many accusations of infidelity, plus rumours he'd slept with Megan McKenna.

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Jake Hall, 2018

Jake subsequently became engaged to former Real Housewives of Cheshire star Misse Beqiri. They have a baby together but in December 2018Jake was given a restraining order following a bust up with his fiancée.

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Arg breaks heart once again during TOWIE ©ITV

In a heartbreaking TOWIE episode in October 2017, Gemma sobbed, “There’s something between us,” as she confessed her true feelings to Arg after he rejected her advances yet again following a night of passion – prompting her to end their long-term “friends with benefits” arrangement. Two months later, he serenaded her with a mariachi band before asking her to be his girlfriend, cheekily adding, “We bounce off each other in more ways than one.”

And it seems that by backing off, Gemma has given Arg time to appreciate her. She used the same technique again at the end of last year, which has turned the tide in their relationship.

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The source explains, “When Arg started going off the rails again at the end of last year, Gemma made the really tough decision to pull back and let him realise what he was going to lose if he continued to self-destruct. His time in rehab was a huge wake-up call, which made him see just how much she’s helped him to overcome – he really appreciates that now.

“He was lost in his ways, but being away from Gemma has given him the kick-start he needed. Now, he is going all-out to prove how much he adores her, from the loving pictures he’s posting to leaving her romantic voice-notes and even writing songs about her. The tables really have turned and now he is the one chasing her – just like she pined after him for all those years.

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More tears from Gemma in Towie 2017 ©ITV

“A lot of people questioned whether Gemma should have kept taking him back in the past but, really, she has taken back control now and given herself the upper hand, which has made their relationship even stronger. Above all the pain and heartbreak he’s put her through in the past, she just can’t resist his vulnerable side and believes they truly are soulmates who are destined to spend their lives together.”

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Gemma is no stranger to toxic relationships. She allegedly suffered domestic abuse at the hands of her drug-dealer ex, Alex Moss, who she claimed spat food in her face shortly before she entered the I’m A Celeb! jungle in 2014 – a claim he denies.

Another ex of Gemma’s, jailbird Stephen Mortimer, was sent back to jail for robbery just months into their relationship in 2016.

Summing up her romantic history, Gemma once said, “I don’t know why I’m attracted to wrong’uns.”

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Closer magazine issue 902 ©Closer

But our source explains, “Despite her diva ‘GC’ alter-ego, Gemma is incredibly empathetic and always sees the good in others. She has had some bad romances, but Arg does genuinely love and care for her. She is secretly quite proud that she has managed to tame him and put him on the right path when nobody else could.”

Three years ago, Gemma was told by a psychic that she and Arg would have a baby together.

And the source adds, “Gem 100 per cent believes that her and Arg’s romance is written in the stars. She has suffered her fair share of heartache because of him, but she also finds it romantic. She truly believes it will end in a fairy tale, with them having a baby and growing old together."

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