I’ve met a man I’m totally infatuated with and he’s asked me to marry him, even though we’re only three months into our relationship. I thought everyone would be thrilled, but my friends say it’s too soon. But why should we wait?
**Amanda, by email **
Tracey says: For a very good reason: you can’t see your partner clearly when you’re in the grips of infatuation. Infatuation has a huge effect on relationships – it makes us overestimate our similarities with a partner.
It can last up to four years, but it does end. When that happens, it’s like a switch has been flipped – all you see then are your differences.
Lots of people think they’re with the wrong person at this point whereas, in reality, this is actually the first stage of a real relationship.
You both realise you’re imperfect and can start loving each other, warts and all. If you both want to spend the rest of your lives together, what’s the rush?