Is it possible to be in love with two people at once? I love my husband dearly but have developed a close friendship with a man I work with and fear it’s turned into love. I love each for different reasons and haven’t had sex with my colleague. It’s confusing me and I don’t know what to do.
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It’s entirely possible. We’re capable of loving many people. It’s what you do that matters.
This is where commitment comes in. You still love your husband, so take a step back from your work “friend.”
What you have with him is called “emotional cheating” and is just as dangerous as the physical type. Is it enough to have this man as a friend? Then you can have your cake and eat it – though be careful!