I returned home from spending the weekend at my boyfriend’s house to find my vibrator was missing from my bedroom. I asked my flatmate if she’d seen it and she said she’d borrowed it! She gave it back, but I’m horrified. What shall I do?
**Katie, by email **
Personally, I’d tell her you’re very upset and ask her to cough up the cash for a replacement.
It’s possible to pass on STIs via a sex toy. If you do intend to share a toy (with your partner, for example), you should cover it with a condom.
What’s the toy made of? If the material is porous, there’s a high risk of it harbouring bacteria and viruses. I would be looking for a replacement flatmate as well as a new toy.