I’m meeting an ex for lunch and I’m not sure whether to tell my new husband. I don’t have any feelings for the ex and he doesn’t for me – it’s just a friendly catch-up. I’m not sure of my husband’s position on being friends with exes and don’t want to cause problems. Should I tell him or keep my mouth shut?
Sally, by email
You’ll cause a lot more problems if you don’t tell him and he finds out anyway.
Was this guy a significant ex? Or someone you had a bit of a fling with ages ago?
If it’s the former, your husband is more likely to feel threatened.
Either way, tell him you’ve made plans to catch up with an old friend who also happens to be an ex and wanted to run it past him first. Believe me, even if it causes a row, it’ll be a lot less of a big deal than if he finds out you did it behind his back.