I’m about to start dating after a long break. I like to have sex early to find out if we’re compatible, but friends argue it complicates rather than simplifies things. What’s your view?
**Juliette, by email **
The trouble with having sex early is that you’re bonding with someone you don’t know. Once you’ve had sex, you continue having sex. Early sex is intense, blinds you to the person in front of you and can render you incapable of seeing them realistically.
If you wait even a few weeks, you’re more likely to make a more sensible appraisal of whether he is right for you or not.