I’ve fallen in love with my best pal’s boyfriend of three years. I get the feeling he fancies me too. How can I let him know how I feel without it blowing up in my face?
**Eve, by email **
You talk about love, but this sounds like you’re asking for advice on giving him the green light to cheat with you. Say he does fancy you, is he going to dump your friend for you?
They’re three years in and he’s shown no signs of leaving her. You stand to lose your friend and your self-respect by taking this further.
Stop seeing the two together and move on – this man isn’t available.