I love sex with my partner and we both orgasm most of the time – but it’s never together. I’d really like both of us to climax at the same time and find it frustrating that we don’t. What’s going on?
**Keira, by email **
You’ve fallen for the simultaneous orgasm myth – a film and TV favourite where the hero and heroine always climax (noisily) together.
In reality, it’s incredibly difficult to time the male orgasm (which lasts around 15 seconds) to coincide perfectly with yours (around 30 seconds). That’s precision timing and, given most men climax after two and a half minutes of thrusting and most women need about 15 minutes of clitoral stimulation, you can see it’s a happy coincidence, not the norm.
It sounds like you have a great sex life, so by all means try to come together by waiting until you’re on the brink before he penetrates, but be realistic and don’t let it ruin your fun.