Closer writers debate: When is the right time to move on after the death of a partner?

How soon is too soon to move on after the death of a partner? It's something a lot of people have a lot to say about - just look at Mick Jagger.


by Closer staff |
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Deputy Online Editor Kayleigh Dray says: 'whenever you're ready'

The rocker has come under fire for being 'disgusting' after photographers spotted him out with a brunette, a few months after girlfriend L'Wrenn Scott passed away.

But you know what? There is no magic number when it comes to dating after death. It doesn't matter if it's been a few weeks, six months, a year, or two years - because it's not a thing of timing at all.It's all about how healed the person is.

Time may be the only thing we can measure as a outsider and, yes, time needs to pass for healing to happen, but we can't get inside someone else's heart or mind to know whether they are ready to get into a new relationship.

Have they cried all the tears they need to cry? Have they been able to grieve for what was? And, perhaps most importantly of all, have they managed to regain a sense of self? Only they can possibly know that.

The right amount of time to grieve is different for everyone, and at some point, a person just needs to be allowed to be happy again.

Digital Writer Ellie Hooper says: 'give yourself time'

Whilst I agree with Kayleigh's sentiments in part, there is such a thing as moving on too fast from such a huge life event.

There is no right or wrong way to deal with grief, but you do need to deal with it, and trying to cover it up with throes of a new romance will only prolong the inevitable.

Not only is this bad for your psyche, having to push down all the emotions of loss and longing whilst trying to fall for another person, it does also have a massive impact on those around you.

It must be agonising for L'Wren's close friends and family to watch her partner of a decade move on within a matter of months, as if she were nothing more than a casual fling.

Their relationship lasted longer than many marriages, can he not give her the decency of staying single for a while as he processes her death?

Life goes on yes, but sometimes people also need to pause and reflect; to take a moment to think about what has passed, and ensure they learn from their experiences.

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