'I sleep with Phaedra and Tom sleeps with Astala in the spare room'
Peaches, 24 revealed that she and her husband Tom Cohen sleep separately so that Peaches can share a bed with their six-month-old Phaedra, while Tom shares with Astala, 18 months.
‘It’s hardcore in my house,’ she told a Grazia magazine.
Peaches explained that they were all meant to sleep in the same bed, but Phaedra’s crying disrupted his brother.
‘We had a bed made that’s 9ft long and 8ft wide so that we could all sleep in it, but Phaedra’s crying wakes Astala. So I sleep with Phaedra and Tom sleeps with Astala in the spare room,’ she said.
‘It’s not that great for our intimate life'
The arrangements mean that Peaches and Tom have to put their sex life on hold until the weekend, when the children stay at Tom’s parents.’
‘It’s not that great for our intimate life, so, thank God, we have those weekends,’ she admitted.
The couple became parents early on in their relationship, so they have had little time to focus on each other.
‘Tom needs to know that he’s important too… We were only together for a year before I got pregnant.
There are days when my husband and I think, “What if we’d had more time to be in this relationship to just enjoy each other?”’
Peaches’ mother Paula Yates – who died from an accidental heroin overdose when Peaches was 11 – had attachment-parented her and her nanny passed on the books that Paula had used.
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What is Attachment Parenting?
Attachment Parenting is a method of raising babies based on the psychological theory of attachment. Attachment theory suggests children form a strong bond with parents during childhood which has lifelong consequences.
According to the theory, sensitive parenting helps the child form a secure attachment style - fostering a child’s positive emotional development and well-being.
What are the main principles?
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Skin-to-skin contact – during bathing, breastfeeding, or massage. Parents who have adopted the parenting style will often wear their babies close to them in a sling rather than pushing them away from them in a pram.
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Breastfeeding – mothers are encouraged to breastfeed their infants on demand, encouraging them to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full. They often also breastfeed children until they want to stop, whatever age this might be.
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Co-sleeping – Attachment parenting promotes sleeping in the same bed as your baby
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Positive discipline – Parents are encouraged to use discipline that is empathetic, and discover the needs leading to the behavior rather than reacting to behavior. Positive discipline is supposed to help children develop a conscience.
Criticism
Some critics have suggested the method is demanding on parents who have to be constantly on call without help from other individuals. Others have expressed concerns about the dangers of co-sleeping.
For more information, visit www.attachmentparenting.org