Newlyweds send email shaming guest for ‘stingy’ gift of £100 – and asks guest to send ‘adjustment’

And of course it's sparked outrage online...

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by Hayley Kadrou |
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A wedding is all about bringing together friends and family to celebrate the love between two people, while also enjoying one too many glasses of prosecco and ‘dad dancing’ all evening.


Well, not for one newlywed couple…

The internet has sparked outrage over a bride and groom who criticised one of their guests for a gift they deemed stingy – a cheque for £100.

The story came out as one woman took to Mumsnet to seek advice after receiving an email from the new wife telling her to contribute more, as she felt her present was lacking.

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She wrote:

“I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)”

And explaining that the couple had thanked her for her attendance and assured her they enjoy her presence on the big day, they then let her know her present, on the other hand, wasn’t quite up to scratch.

The post explains the email read:

“‘We were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.’”

Now, we don’t know about you, but being handed £100 for finding some one you love sounds pretty generous to us. And an ex-colleague? We’d personally be amazed…

Especially after many guests have already spent a sizable amount of money to get to the event in the first place. In fact, the average – we repeat, AVERAGE – cost of celebrating someone else’s Holy Matrimony will set you back a staggering £600.

That’s enough to make you change all future relationship advice to ‘stay single! It’s great fun!’

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The shocked guest explained that she had recently inherited some money, to which she thought the newlyweds were getting at with “your own position” and asked other users what she should do next in this situation.

Needless to say, other Mumsnet users were equally as shocked, and many were outraged at the crass email.

One commenter wrote:

“I would not justify it with a reply. F!cking hell how rude.”

“Tell them to scrap the cheque and you’ll send a more befitting. Then send them 10p”

“Whatever the circumstance that is very rude. As to whether or not the gift was appropriate: did you bowl up with a partner and 6 children and proceed to demolish the buffet and free bar? No? Then £100 is a generous gift to an ex-colleague.”

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