‘Kanye West, beware the curse of the controlling mother-in-law’ one Closer reader shares her difficult experience

But forget the inside details of the OTT proposal, or the lavish nuptials that are no doubt set to come.

The thing that I am most intrigued to know about is Kanye's relationship with 'momager' Kris Jenner, Kardashian matriarch and multi-million dollar business woman no doubt well used to getting her own way.

She said this week she was "so happy" about the engagement - posting 'Best night ever' next to a picture of Kanye's proposal screen. And in a cute touch, she referred to Kanye as one of her "kids".

But we've all read the stories about the clashes with her future son-in-law and the alleged rows over his participation in their TV show, baby names, Paris, all with the same clanging undertone: Kris feels she knows what is best for her offspring.

As indeed most mothers may feel.

What I'm interested in is how this intention ends up in butting heads with offspring's beloved. Surely, they want the same thing - for Kim to be happy?

But with her newly single status, Kris may now be more protective than ever of her daughter and keen to throw herself into preparations for the upcoming nuptials and her unofficial role as doting live in nanny to the pairs first daughter.

I am currently coping with a sitcom-worthy mother-in-law situation, and Closerettes, I would like your advice. If not your advice, then some comforting words that I am not the only one in this ridiculous position.

To give some context, my husband and I (who must remain nameless, as you will soon understand) are childless and have been married for five years.

During that time, my MiL's wariness of me has bloomed from joking-not-really-joking comments about my husband no longer needing her to full-blown shouting matches about me taking him away and ruining their relationship.

From the very start, she has marked me as an enemy trying to take over her turf. I never realised the yonks-old cliches spouted by stand-up comedians could be true.

I've had it all, Closerettes.

Comments about my job, my lifestyle, my clothes. About how well I clean the house, my taste in home furnishings, what I (not 'we', please note) choose to spend money on.

I must admit, I am probably a stereotypical MiL dream as I provide plenty of non-doormat ammunition, rowdy nights out with girlfriends, leaving washing up for days (the horror!), possibly never providing grandkids.

I was prepared for some mum-meddling of course, parents want to advise and interfere because they care, my own included, but it's never been a conversation - always a criticism or an order.

She refers to herself as the adult when around us (despite us being in our mid-thirties) and treats us as children, looking after him while chastising me.

She also implies we are nothing but hedonistic teenagers until we have kids because we enjoy our life as a childless couple - going out or having friends over.

I find this hilarious, because I have plenty of friends who are parents and have fun, and it's pretty funny to think that by that logic, being a grown-up could be largely due to having too much fun and drunkenly fumbling a condom.

It's become easy to joke about it, but a lot of it is cutting, the implication I would make a terrible mother, that I'm selfish, that I'm not good enough for my husband, that I have changed him for the worse.

I've learnt to be prepared for anything, like arguments I'm not a part of getting blamed on me - for if darling son is at odds with mother, daughter-in-law is the new factor in the equation.

They got on so well before you, daughter-in-law! His girlfriends before you are rose-tinted because they are no longer a threat.

But this is my issue - a threat to what? I don't want her role.

I doubt many of us embarked upon a relationship hoping to be our significant other's mother, and you'd hope she wouldn't want my role in his life either (unless this is weirder than anyone thought). Attempts to discuss it have resulted in tears and tantrums.

From my vantage point, she is the one who has affected their relationship.

I have not at any point stopped them from seeing each other or tried to change his opinion of her.

She, however, has retreated into his siblings, because she says he hasn't got any time to spend with her anymore, and says he has changed, that he's cold and mean now, which hurts everyone.

She sees room for only one woman in his life. How can this possibly work out?

Obviously, mother-in-law problems are not restricted to married couples only, but in my case, the wedding apparently allowed MiL to say more directly how she truly felt. Perhaps she decided that she may as well jack in any pretence, I don't know.

A friend once told me, 'Don't worry. When you have kids, you'll hold all the cards.'

That may be true, but all I can imagine now is another battlefield. For the sake of my sanity, I find myself repeating 'Put up and shut up.' I have seen family fallouts, minor, long-running and apocolyptic, and the pain isn't worth it for any participant.

Is my strategy right?

Kanye seems to have made some concessions for the sake of the relationship - appearing on Kris' short-lived chat show and moving into the family home after baby North's birth.

But in the run up to the wedding, I wonder how the balance of power will play out. From my experience, two powerful yet incompatible personalities - linked together through a person they both love - can be a recipe for disaster.

I need your help Closerettes - has anyone out there successfully managed to change this situation? Should I bite my lip and play by her rules? Or do I need to confront this once and for all?