We can all get stuck in our ways sometimes - whether we're looking for love or settled down with a long-term partner - and it can be hard to know where to start when it comes to getting out of the relationship rut.
When you want to make any changes in your life, inspiration is key - so I'm here to help you reboot your love life, with my top advice that's sure to get you confidently back on the dating scene or put the spice back in your sex life if you're lacking saucy ideas!
Remember whatever your love issue, you need to be open to trying out new things - from joining a gym to expose you to fresh dating potentials, exploring a fantasy in the bedroom, or working on your self-confidence and diving into some sexploration with your partner.
Here are my top tips to reboot your love life and get the sizzle-factor back!
GET YOUR DATING 'MOJO' BACK!
Starting the new year single and can't face one more dodgy internet date? Get your mojo back with these tips:
Reboot your love and sex life and get back your 'dating mojo
1 of 6DON'T DO WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS DONE, or you'll get where you've always got - nowhere!
Stop going to the same places, doing the same things, seeing the same group of friends. Meeting someone is about exposing yourself to as many new people as possible. Any break in your usual routine turns up new possibilities, so walk a different route to work or join a new gym. Make it a rule to go to any event where you won't know all the people coming.
2 of 6DO AN OUTSIDE-INSIDE MAKEOVER.
Get a pal whose style you admire to go through your wardrobe and give honest opinions on your clothes, hair and make-up. Read a style blog and get their regular updates (Camilleovertherainbow.com is great) and get out of a beauty rut for £10 a month with a beauty-subscription service that delivers you new products to try out (try Glossybox.com). Regularly doing new things like this gets your brain in the habit of challenging itself.This means, when it comes to men, you'll be less inclined to stick to a "type" and more likely to challenge your perception of the "perfect" partner. If you feel you need to, go to see a therapist (visit www.relate.org.uk or www.bacp.co.uk) to work through any issues. If you're feeling strong, you'll attract someone to be proud of.
3 of 6MAKE A MAN WISHLIST - ONE THAT'S BASED ON QUALITIES NOT APPEARANCE OR MATERIAL POSSESSIONS.
Focus on looks and you narrow your choices. Besides, numerous studies show appearance and money aren't what makes people happy in love long-term. Focus on personality traits instead - "kind", "intelligent" and "loyal" rather than "tall" and "loaded."
4 of 6MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST
Don't idealise your exes - if they were perfect, you'd still be with them.
5 of 6DON'T USE MATES AS SUBSTITUTE PARTNERS.
When you're single, friends are a lifeline - just don't spend so much energy and time seeing friends, you have no time left to date. Don't be scared to be alone - it's what will drive you up off the sofa to meet someone.
6 of 6LOOK FOR LOVE BUT DON'T LET IT BE YOUR PRIME FOCUS
Aim to live your life to the full. The more relaxed you are about finding a partner, the more attractive you'll be. Enjoy whatever it is you are doing and love will find you.