How often should a couple have sex for a happy relationship?

Experts have revealed how much sex couples should REALLY be having for a happy relationship - and the answer may surprise you!


by Kayleigh Dray |
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There’s no point denying it; sex is a vital part of any healthy romantic relationship.

But is there a magic number when it comes to doing the deed?

Well, yes - but it probably isn’t what you expect.

Having sex more often than that doesn't make us any happier, says the lead author of a new study into the topic, Amy Muise, a social psychologist and postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto-Mississauga.

But if the sex becomes less frequent than weekly, happiness declines.

So how many times should we get intimate with our partner on a weekly basis?

"Once a week makes sense in some ways because I think many people would still see this as having regular sex.

“Although more frequent sex is associated with greater happiness, this link was no longer significant at a frequency of more than once a week,” she said.

“Our findings suggest that it’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don’t need to have sex every day as long as you’re maintaining that connection.”

She added that couples shouldn’t put “too much pressure on engaging in sex as frequently as possible,” suggesting that they instead focus on quality over quantity… and regular intimate moments, such as cuddles on the sofa.


The study was based on data collected over four decades from a survey of 30,000 Americans in relationships.

But, while couples have been advised to have sex regularly to boost happiness levels, there’s no such rule in place for singletons.

“There was no association between sexual frequency and happiness for singles,” noted Amy Muise.

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