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One thing that many couples struggle with in the bedroom is mutual pleasure.
Though many women don’t see orgasm as the ultimate goal when sleeping with a partner, it’s definitely a very welcome occurrence.
But the female orgasm needn’t be so elusive to men thanks to a new blog that’s hit the Internet.
‘How to make me come’ is a tumblr page that invites women to anonymously describe what it is that makes them tick, and some ladies have made sure to go into detail about how to help them hit the big ‘O’.
Nearly 100 women have contributed to the blog, and the insights are making it a must-read for men around the world seeking to please their partners.
The importance of foreplay
“So we’ve been making out for a while, and that’s great! Even once I’m writhing against you, continue to take your time. Experiment with qualities of touching and try to relax and know that we’re creating this arousal together. This isn’t me putting you up to some test, this is one grand foray into the art of play and pleasure. You can try touching me lightly, slowly, in circles, in lines.
“You can try kissing me, licking me, sucking on my body, everywhere but my vagina. Save the main event for last. A word on my nipples: it’s rare, but I’ve come just by being touched here, so WOW, please don’t forget about them! Tug on them, bite them (gently!), swirl your tongue around them, embrace them, knead them, and then move on to the next one, and then back again. This will get me hotter than pretty much anything else.
“When it’s clear that I’m ready, you can start to use your fingers to venture downwards. Explore my pussy, but please don’t go straight for my clit. I’m not ready quite yet. The lips like to be rubbed, pulled, massaged. My actual vagina will probably be dripping, and dipping a finger in here is nice, but only to lubricate your exploration–don’t penetrate me yet.
“Put your mouth down there and literally just breath onto my clit. It feels great, I promise! Whether you want to start with your fingers or your tongue, I’ll eventually say to you “eat me! please!” in which case you’ll gladly oblige and probably use both body parts.
“This game of teasing and playing makes me feel so wanted, so loved, and like my pleasure is so important to you. It doesn’t really matter if we’ve hooked up twice or for two years, taking this time makes all the difference. Breathe with me. I know it sounds cheesy, but we’re connecting on a pretty intense level, and again, being on the same page is cool.”
Compliments count
“Once you’re inside of me, throw in an “Oh my God, you’re so beautiful.” straight off the bat, especially if I’m on top. Go slow and fast, wing it. Catch the vibe. Be assertive and communicative. Figure out positions by saying things like, “Does this feel good for you?”
“This is probably a good time to mention, that if I haven’t had a clitoral orgasm, it’s very, very, very unlikely that I will have a G Spot orgasm. The clit orgasm is a gateway for me. So, if you’re ever feeling like, “Oh let’s be spontaneous and skip some foreplay and I’ll just push her panties to the side like Jay Z talks about on Beyonce’s ‘Drunk in Love’… you better plan to f**k some, STOP, eat me out (or 69 or do hand stuff) THEN get back inside me so we can BOTH finish.
“Don’t ‘be spontaneous,’ then come right away, and leave me high and dry while you’re in your fucking ‘refractory period.’ So rookie. So unsexy.”
‘How to Make Me Come’: The Recipe
Hands-on time: About 15 minutes
Recipe makes: 1-2 orgasms
Ingredients
You
Me
A soft bed
Directions
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Preheat. Want me. Tell me you do. This will make me want you more. Be literally unable to keep your hands and mouth off of me.
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Shower me with compliments. Genuine compliments. Go beyond “beautiful” and “sexy.” Tell me my breasts are peachy orbs of lusciousness. Tell me my eyes are like the sea. Kiss my nipples and tell me they taste sweet. Tell me you can’t stop kissing them. Note: I get bored after too much breast-play, but I like knowing that you can’t get enough of them.
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Lay me down. I don’t want to be standing, or even sitting for this. I want to be on my back. If there are too many pillows on the bed, throw them on the floor. Pay attention to my comfort. This is important, and you will be rewarded.
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Kiss my mouth and neck (pay a lot of attention to the neck) while you gently stroke the slightly rounded space between my belly button and pubic bone. For whatever reason, I have a huge concentration of nerve endings here, and playing with it will simultaneously relax me and turn me on.
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Pull my underwear off and throw it on the floor.
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Reach down and gently comb your fingers through my pubic hair. It should be exciting to you that I have it—if you prefer a smooth labia, that’s cool, but please get the fuck off of me.
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Begin gently stroking my clitoris, toward the top.
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Keeping one finger on the top, move a second finger to the top left side. Keep stroking.
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Don’t be discouraged when I ask you to be more gentle. My clit gets overwhelmed very easily, and I’ll need you to decrease pressure when that happens. You can slowly rebuild the pressure as I get more and more excited, and then decrease again when it gets to be too much.
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Keep going. I’m blessed with a highly orgasmic clit, so 3-4 minutes of stroking, building up and then backing off on the pressure, should get me there. I’ll probably start playing with your cock as I get more and more turned on, but as I near orgasm, I’ll be unable to multitask and will stop to focus on my pleasure. Don’t worry, I’ll return to it shortly.
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As I get ready to come, it’s important that you don’t change anything. If you move your hand or shift the direction of your stroking, I might lose the feeling. Please keep as you are. I’ll likely whisper, “Just like that. Just like that.”
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Keep stroking through the orgasm, through my bucking hips.
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As soon as I’ve come, I’ll push your hand away. I’ll be too overwhelmed and won’t be able to handle any action for about 30 seconds.
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Once I’ve recalibrated, I’ll want to have penetrative vaginal sex.
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I’ll climb on top of you, or you can climb on top of me. We’ll feel it out in the moment.
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Because I’ve just come, I’ll likely have a shorter, but still very intense orgasm from penetration, after just a few minutes.
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At this point, my focus turns to making you come.
Read the full blog HERE.