Closer’s dating expert, Rebecca Twomey – who met Michael Griffiths before he entered the villa – shares why he went about everything in the wrong way
There’s never a nice way to reject someone but wow, didn’t Love Island’s Michael Griffiths show there’s certainly a wrong way to do it?
In last night’s explosive episode (watched by a staggering 4.3million people) Michael, 28, became public enemy no.1 as he entered into a vicious spat with ex Amber Rose Gill after he recoupled with newbie Joanna Chimonides.
Ahead of the new girls’ arrival into the now infamous villa, Michael appeared smitten with Amber, 21, insisting she was the woman for him. But while the firefighter managed to thaw her icy demeanor over four weeks, it took him less than four days to move on.
As avid fans know, the path of Love (Island) doesn’t run smooth, and who are we to judge Michael for falling for someone else? But he justified his decision by turning on Amber, blaming her for the issues in their ill-fated romance saying, “You made me look like a d***head” adding how he’d “bitten my tongue when I wouldn't usually.”
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What the Love Island couples are up to since leaving the villa
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1 of 13Kem Cetinay and Amber Davies
The current Love Island champions dodged a number of issues during their time on the show but now they are out in the real world, the pair seem totally loved up! Attending a number of appearances together, including a pool party in Mallorca last weekend, Kem and Amber often share snaps of each other to their Instagram pages. The pair wasted no time in meeting each other's family and friends when they left the villa, Kem shared a cute snap of Amber and his mum with the caption, 'The two most important women in my life'.
2 of 13Kem Cetinay and Amber Davies
Despite the 2017 winners looking loved up, Kem was forced to defend his romance last weekend when his 'friends' said he would break Amber's heart.
3 of 13Kem Cetinay and Amber Davies
One of Kem's friends reportedly said, "It all looks like the modern day fairy tale from the outside, but there is already trouble in paradise. And knowing Kem, it will only be a matter of time before it all goes wrong."They look loved up enough to us!
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4 of 13Chris Hughes and Olivia Attwood
Ahh Chris and Olivia, they were on and off more than the garden light bulbs during their time in the villa, but it did look like their romance was going well on the outside world.Attending appearances together and even taking their fake baby Cash Hughes on nights out with them, the pair shared snaps declaring their love for each other.
5 of 13Chris Hughes and Olivia Attwood
That was until new rumours this week that the pair had split after Olivia was caught 'getting close' with another man! According to reports Chris had dumped Olivia after she joined Blackburn Rovers footballer Bradley Deck at a nightclub on Sunday night. A source close to Chris reportedly told a national newspaper, "Chris has told his close friends it's all over. He's furious and heartbroken to see her all over someone else."
6 of 13Chris Hughes and Olivia Attwood
Chris and Olivia have both now slammed the rumours, with Chris supporting his girl at a recent event.
7 of 13Marcel Sommerville and Gabby Allen
Despite many viewers having doubts about Gabby's real feelings towards Marcel, it seems the couple have been going from strength the strength since leaving the villa.
8 of 13Marcel Sommerville and Gabby Allen
They've been meeting each other's family and friends, attending events together and posing for some very hot snaps of social media, these two seem unbreakable!
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9 of 13Jamie Jewitt and Camilla Thurlow
Like the rest of the couples, both Jamie and Camilla have been keeping fans up to date with their romance on social media and look seriously loved up!
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10 of 13Jamie Jewitt and Camilla Thurlow
Since leaving the villa and returning back to England, Jamie has visited Camilla's home and met her family, with Cam also spending time with Jamie's close family and friends. Jamie posted a shot of himself, Camilla and the rest of his family enjoying a movie night, before taking Camilla to see his mum's salon.
11 of 13Jamie Jewitt and Camilla Thurlow
The pair then delighted their fans once more when Camilla shared a snap of them travelling to a refugee camp, something that is very close to Camilla's heart.Captioning the shot with, 'We are on our way! Thank you so much to everyone who has supported us so far - we will keep you all posted on how we get on.'
12 of 13Alex Beattie and Montana Brown
From the moment they left the villa, Alex and Montana were faced with numerous rumours that they'd not continued their romance outside of the show.Unlike the other couples, the pair haven't been spotted attending events together and have kept loved up snaps of each other to a complete minimum in the last week.
13 of 13Alex Beattie and Montana Brown
And as Montana prepares to become clothing brand Pretty Little Things' brand new ambassador, Alex has signed a modelling deal with Boohoo Men, leaving the pair with very little time on their hands for a romance.Montana has now confirmed her split with Alex after admitting it has been 'hard' on the outside world. Despite the split, the pair have remained friends.
He was accused of ‘gas lighting’ which seems pretty extreme. First we hated on Joe Garratt, then Danny Williams, now it’s Michael and by the time I’ve finished writing this, I imagine it’ll be Curtis Pritchard.
We can’t hate Michael for following his feelings or wanting to be with someone else, but what is unforgivable is hurting someone who is already heartbroken because of your actions. This breaks every rule of a break up.
From my experience, when someone doesn’t like the repercussions of their decisions and actions they’d prefer to blame you for how you're feeling than to admit their guilt of being the perpetrator of your pain.
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It’s the boyfriend who you discovered was cheating but accuses you of snooping through his messages. Or the guy who stood you up and calls you psycho when you express your anger at him.
Rejection stings, and as Closer’s dating columnist I am sadly well versed in the experience. When you’re dating today the next hot new single is just a swipe away, or in the case of Love Island, a bombshell away.
But no matter how many times you’ve been dumped or worse, ghosted, it still doesn’t get any easier to deal with.
Ending a relationship, calling time on a fling or letting someone know you don’t want a second date with them is really simple, you say, “Was lovely to have met you, you’re a great person but I’m afraid this isn’t the right thing for me. I wish you lots of happiness.” End of.
You don’t need to invest any strong emotions – be it anger or frustration, into the breakup chat because you no longer feel anything for that person. Or do you, Michael?