There’s no denying that it’s harder to maintain friendships after you have a baby.
And, while that’s partly to do with how busy your life suddenly becomes, there’s also no denying that this is due to friends failing to understand how your priorities change when you become a mum.
Which is why THIS sassy article, penned by a mum in the know, has proven such a hit on social media.
Coping With Frugality, who shared the piece on their Facebook page, wrote: “This is probably one of THE best articles I’ve ever read!
"If you are a mum, or have friends who are, this is something you should read.”
This is probably one of THE best articles I've ever read! If you are a mom, or have friends who are, this is something you should read. > >
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The article in question sees a frustrated woman named Tacoma poses a question to The Washington Post’s agony aunt, Carolyn: “Why don’t friends with kids have time?”
In her letter, Tacoma slams her best friend for not having enough time for her, even going so far as to say that her BFF is lying about how busy motherhood is.
“What do stay-at-home mums do all day? Please no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners… I do all those things, too.
“I’m feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy, but, if so, why won’t my friend tell me the truth?
“I’ve got friends with and without kids and all us child-free folks have the same question.”
Carolyn did not hold back in her response.
She wrote: “I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and between giving my forehead some keyboard.
“To claim you want to understand, while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mum-friends are lying or competing with you, is disingenuous indeed.”
The talented writer then went on to explain EXACTLY what mums spend their days doing - and we’re sure plenty will relate.
“When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, cleaned, dressed; to keeping them out of harm’s way; to answering their coos, cries, questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys, and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of moulded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces checkout-line screaming.”
The list goes on - and, finally, ends with a pretty snappy conclusion.
“Either make a sincere effort to understand [your friend], or keep your s**t to yourself.”
What do you think of Carolyn’s response? Can you relate to what she has to say?
Let us know via Facebook or Twitter (@CloserOnline) now.