It’s two months until my wedding and I’m suddenly feeling a bit unsure about it all. I don’t want to talk to anyone because I know they would worry. How do I know what are normal nerves and what are real doubts? Name withheld, by email
Make two lists: “Doubts about getting married in general” (feeling trapped, infidelity, children) and “Doubts about my future husband” (do I want to spend the rest of my life with him?). Discuss worries about marriage in general with your fiancé – an honest chat should make you both better able to face future problems together. But doubts about him in particular need to be talked through with a trusted friend or even a therapist. Believe me, you won’t be the first bride to turn up just before the ceremony wanting reassurance!