What thigh gap? How to get strong, toned and muscular thighs

For years the ‘thigh gap’ has become a disturbing aspirational trend, made even more popular with celebrities sharing images of their slim pins on Instagram. But with the likes of Rihanna, Katy Perry and Britney Spears showcasing their curvy, toned thighs it’s time to say bye to the ‘thigh gap’ trend once and for all!

Published on10th March 2015 at 4.10pm

What thigh gap? How to get strong, toned and muscular thighs

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"Couples whose marriages are over, or nearly over, have usually disconnected from each other," says Elayne Savage Ph.D., author of Breathing Room: Creating Space to Be a Couple. “If you’re no longer spending any time together—and if it feels like a relief not to be with each other—you’ve already disengaged from the marriage.”

"Couples whose marriages are over, or nearly over, have usually disconnected from each other," says Elayne Savage Ph.D., author of Breathing Room: Creating Space to Be a Couple. “If you’re no longer spending any time together—and if it feels like a relief not to be with each other—you’ve already disengaged from the marriage

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If this is the only reason - and we mean the ONLY reason - you can think of staying in an unhappy marriage, then you need to get out. Yes, a divorce may disrupt their lives… but they will be much happier growing up with separated parents than they will be in an unhappy home. Plus you need to think about the example you're setting your children; do you want to teach them that an unhappy marriage is an ideal relationship? No, of course you don't.

If this is the only reason - and we mean the ONLY reason - you can think of staying in an unhappy marriage, then you need to get out. Yes, a divorce may disrupt their lives… but they will be much happier growing up with separated parents than they will be in an unhappy home. Plus you need to think about the example you're setting your children; do you want to teach them that an unhappy marriage is an ideal relationship? No, of course you don't

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When you disagree on something, are you and your partner able to work together to find a solution you're both happy with? After all, marriage is SUPPOSED to be a game of give and take. But if your partner continually refuses to listen to what you need (time, affection, sex/physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you're not in a good place. At all.

physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you're not in a good place. At all

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Have you or your partner changed so much that you no longer share moral, ethical, or lifestyle values? Do you have different life goals? Have you changed your plan for the future whereas your partner's has stayed the same (or vice versa)?If you've grown apart, or consider yourself a different person to when you tied the knot, then it may be that you wouldn't make the same marriage choice today. Which might just mean it's time to… well, call time on your marriage.

u201cOne partner canu2019t do all the trying on his or her own,u201d says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. u201cYou canu2019t go anywhere like that.u201d A good rule of thumb: If itu2019s been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.

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“One partner can’t do all the trying on his or her own,” says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. “You can’t go anywhere like that.” A good rule of thumb: If it’s been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.

“One partner can’t do all the trying on his or her own,” says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. “You can’t go anywhere like that.” A good rule of thumb: If it’s been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits

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Relationships are all about mutual respect, so when one partner feels as if they are being constantly rejected, dismissed or spoken down to, then the marriage can and will become toxic.

Relationships are all about mutual respect, so when one partner feels as if they are being constantly rejected, dismissed or spoken down to, then the marriage can and will become toxic

Do you find yourself dreading speaking to your spouse about marital problemsu2026 or life in general? Communication is key to relieving stress and building a healthy bond between you and your partner - and, if you don't feel comfortable communicating with your partner, this could be a sign you don't trust them. Remember: trust issues are NEVER good in any relationship.

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Do you find yourself dreading speaking to your spouse about marital problems… or life in general? Communication is key to relieving stress and building a healthy bond between you and your partner - and, if you don't feel comfortable communicating with your partner, this could be a sign you don't trust them. Remember: trust issues are NEVER good in any relationship.

Do you find yourself dreading speaking to your spouse about marital problems… or life in general? Communication is key to relieving stress and building a healthy bond between you and your partner - and, if you don't feel comfortable communicating with your partner, this could be a sign you don't trust them. Remember: trust issues are NEVER good in any relationship

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Marriage counselling is a great way to work through your problems, not to mention receive some invaluable help from an unbiased third party. And, while plenty of marriages have been saved through marriage counselling, it isn't necessarily for everyone. If you have been seeing a counsellor for at least several months with no signs of progress, it can be a strong indicator that it's time to divorce.

Marriage counselling is a great way to work through your problems, not to mention receive some invaluable help from an unbiased third party. And, while plenty of marriages have been saved through marriage counselling, it isn't necessarily for everyone. If you have been seeing a counsellor for at least several months with no signs of progress, it can be a strong indicator that it's time to divorce

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An affair doesn't always spell the end of a marriage; if there is regret, if there is an apology, and if there is a desire to put things right (perhaps through marriage counselling), you can find a way to make things work. But if one of you is a SERIAL cheater, it's a problem you can't fix. Trust us.

An affair doesn't always spell the end of a marriage; if there is regret, if there is an apology, and if there is a desire to put things right (perhaps through marriage counselling), you can find a way to make things work. But if one of you is a SERIAL cheater, it's a problem you can't fix. Trust us

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…and it doesn't scare you. In fact, completely the opposite; you love the idea of being on your own again.

…and it doesn't scare you. In fact, completely the opposite; you love the idea of being on your own again

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Maybe one of you wants sex and the other doesn't want sex. Maybe you have both stopped needing that intimate connection with each other. Whatever the reason, a marriage that lacks sexual intimacy and affection will either end up in divorce or wind up a marriage of convenience - you need to work out what's stopping you from becoming affectionate with one another, and decide if it's a problem you can overcome.

Maybe one of you wants sex and the other doesn't want sex. Maybe you have both stopped needing that intimate connection with each other. Whatever the reason, a marriage that lacks sexual intimacy and affection will either end up in divorce or wind up a marriage of convenience - you need to work out what's stopping you from becoming affectionate with one another, and decide if it's a problem you can overcome

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