Vanessa Feltz: ‘Meghan Markle is the best person to judge if she felt racially abused’

Vanessa has experienced both anti-semitism and racism as a Jewish woman engaged to her black partner

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by Daisy McLure |
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Arguably the most distressing revelations to come from Meghan and Harry’s interview were the allegations that a member of the royal family had “raised concern” over the colour of Archie’s skin and the shocking confession that the Duchess had thought about taking her own life while pregnant with their son because she was so mentally unwell.

She claimed she sought support from “the institution” of the royal family and human resources, but was told that it wasn’t possible for her to receive professional help. There were explosive reactions of outrage all over the globe, with GMB host Piers Morgan sensationally quitting the show after his comment that he “didn’t believe a word” that Meghan said received 41,000 Ofcom complaints.

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Piers later clarified his remarks on GMB, noting that “it’s not for me to question if she felt suicidal, I am not in her mind and that is for her to say.”

Across the other side of the pond, Sharon Osbourne broke down in tears after defending Piers in a fiery chat show row because she declared that he was entitled to his “freedom of speech” and that in turn did not make her a racist for supporting a friend.

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Meanwhile, Prince William told reporters last week, “We are very much not a racist family.” We spoke to Vanessa Feltz, who has experienced both anti-semitism and racism as a Jewish woman engaged to her black partner – Ben Ofoedu – about why she feels sympathy for Meghan…

Radio presenter Vanessa Feltz, 59, tells Closer, “If Meghan feels that she was subject to racism, then it’s not for us to disagree – only she knows how she felt. I’m a Jewish woman and I would not appreciate it if I said I had been subject to anti-semitism and somebody else tried to tell me I hadn’t.”

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Vanessa – who was previously married to a white doctor, Michael Kurer – claims one TV presenter once asked her, “How do you get all these big black boyfriends?”, which she found upsetting. She adds, “I’ve never chosen or been chosen by a boyfriend based on the colour of their skin or their ethnicity, only if I loved them and they loved me. It’s that kind of comment that is distressing.

“When I first was in a relationship with Ben, we went on a TV talk show and, without us knowing beforehand, they centered it on, ‘Can mixed relationships work?’ So that was quite surprising. But we have usually been extremely politely and kindly treated by everybody.”

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A day after the Sussexes’ interview, Oprah said Harry – who has been criticised in the past for wearing a “fancy dress” Nazi uniform and using a derogatory word to describe his Pakistani friend while training in the Army – had asked her to make it clear the alleged racist remark did not come from the Queen or the Duke of Edinburgh.

Vanessa says she also doesn’t believe it came from a younger generation royal, such as Prince William or Kate, and says, “I think it’s a pretty unpleasant person from an older generation – possibly unconsciously racist, possibly overtly racist – but definitely horrible, rude and obnoxious. Because who on earth would ask an expectant mother or father how dark their baby’s skin is going to be?”

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Meghan’s revelations about her ill mental health as a working royal – and that she contemplated suicide but received no help – also shocked fans.

And Vanessa, who argues that Piers Morgan’s outburst about not believing a word she said “left many people extremely upset and hurt,” insists she “feels sorry” for the Sussexes after hearing their revelations.

Check out: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry's relationship from the start

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Meghan Markle and Prince Harry relationship timeline - Grazia - SLIDER

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July 2016: Meghan And Harry Meet

So when did the future Duke and Duchess of Sussex meet? Prince Harry and Meghan Markle were introduced by a mutual friend in July 2016, originally thought to be Markus Anderson (also the director of Soho house) but who was later confirmed to be Violet von Westenholz. Meghan said in an interview that before she met the Harry she didn't know much about him 'the only thing that I had asked [our mutual friend] was, 'Well is he nice?'. According to Harry he knew Meghan was The One from 'the very first time we met.' after only two dates Harry asked Meghan to accompany him on a trip to Botswana.

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October - November 2016: Kensington Palace's Statement

In October 2016 that the Express became the first newspaper to publish news that Prince Harry had a new girlfriend. However just a month later, Kensington Palace released a statement condemning the 'wave of abuse and harassment' faced by Meghan. The unprecedented statement, which referred to Meghan as Harry's girlfriend for the first time, emphasized that Prince Harry was 'worried about Ms. Markle's safety and is deeply disappointed that he has not been able to protect her.' It continued 'It is not right that a few months into a relationship with him that Ms. Markle should be subjected to such a storm.' The palace were also forced to address speculation that Prince William was unhappy with Harry for confirming the relationship too soon, stating 'The Duke of Cambridge absolutely understands the situation concerning privacy and supports the need for Prince Harry to support those closest to him.'

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December - February 2017: Things Get More Serious

Early in December 2017 Meghan was confirmed as the most Googled actress of 2016. In the same month, the couple were photographed together for the first time in London, shopping for a Christmas tree at the Pines and Needles store and attending a performance of The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time. By January 2017 a source told US weekly that Harry had introduced Meghan to Kate and Prince Charlotte and that the 'meeting went well'. Meanwhile a source told The Sun that Meghan had 'virtually moved in' with Prince Harry to his cottage on the Kensington Palace estate.

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March - May 2017: Meghan Attends Weddings With Harry

By March things were openly getting pretty serious between the two: Meghan accompanied Harry to Jamaica for a wedding for the first time (his friend's Tom 'Skippy' Inskip to Lara Hughes-Young). On April the 7th Meghan announced that she was closing down her lifestyle blog The Tig writing 'What began as a passion project (my little engine that could) evolved into an amazing community of inspiration, support, fun and frivolity. You've made my days brighter and filled this experience with so much joy.' In May, Meghan and Harry attended their first public event together at the Polo in Coworth Park (where they also engaged in some PDA). Later in May Prince Harry was seen driving Meghan to the reception of Pippa Middleton and James Matthew's wedding.

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September 2017: The First Official Public Appearance

Welcome to Meghan the style Icon: at the opening of Prince Harry's Invictus Games in September Meghan wore a maroon midi dress with a pleated chiffon skirt by one of her favourite Canadian brands, Aritzia with a burgundy biker jacket by Mackage. The next day the couple were photographed sitting together at the wheelchair tennis and 'broke with royal protocol' by holding hands and kissing at the closing ceremony. On the 5th of September In an interview with Vanity Fair, Meghan stated: 'We're a couple. We're in love. I'm sure there will be a time when we will have to come forward and present ourselves and have stories to tell, but I hope what people understand is that this is our time.'

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September-November 2017: Meghan Leaves Behind Rachel Zane

Late 2017 we saw the end of everyone's favourite legal powerhouse Rachel Zane (sob). In November 2017, shortly after Meghan met the Queen, the actress was reported to be leaving her role in Suits after seven seasons.

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November 2017: The Engagement

After months of speculation, Prince Charles announced the engagement of his younger son Prince Harry and Meghan Markle after 15 months of dating On November 27th 2017 . The engagement ring, said to be designed by Harry, is made of two stones that belonged to Princess Diana. The couple later appeared at a photocall, with Markle wearing a white dress coat by Canadian brand Line The Label (whose website subsequently crashed). When asked by waiting photographers if the proposal was romantic, Harry joked 'of course!' Speaking about his late mother, Princess Diana, Harry said 'I think they'd be thick as thieves. She would be over the moon, jumping up and down, so excited for me... It's days like today when I really miss having her around and miss being able to share the happy news. With the ring, I'm sure she's with us, jumping up and down somewhere else.' it was announced that the wedding would take place on May the 19th, 2018.

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December 2017: The Fab Four

In December 2017 Meghan, Harry, Kate and William were photographed together attending the Christmas service at Sandringham. Pictures of the two couples earned them the title 'The Fab Four'. Meanwhile in the following months Meghan earned a reputation for breaking royal protocol on official visits by hugging fans of the couple and kissing them on the cheek.

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February 2018: Kate And Meghan Appear In Public Together

In February 2018, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle had their first royal engagement together for the Royal Foundation Forum with Prince Harry and Prince William. Harry stated of the two couples 'We have different opinions and they work really well [together]. Working as family does have its challenges; of course it does. The fact that everybody is laughing shows they know exactly what's it like… But we are stuck together for the rest of our lives.'

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May 2018: The Lead Up To The Wedding

In the lead-up to the wedding it was confirmed 2,640 people would be invited to the grounds of Windsor Palace to watch the royal wedding. Photos of Meghan and Harry's wedding invitations were released, bearing Harry's legal name 'Henry'. Meghan and Harry made a number of public appearances together including to the Invictus game tryouts in April and attend the Queen's birthday at the Royal Albert Hall. Meghan's final episode of Suits is also aired, marking the official end of her acting career.

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May 2018: Meghan's Family Drama Begins

On May the 14th, three days before the wedding Meghan's father, Thomas Markle sr. who was confirmed to walk Meghan down the aisle pulled out, following an embarrassing incident in which he staged paid paparazzi photos. Thomas Markle later suffered a heart attack, and his son Thomas Markle Jr. penned an unflattering open letter to Harry criticizing Meghan and encouraging him to pull out of the wedding. The day before the wedding, Kensington Palace announced Prince Charles would walk Meghan down the aisle, stating 'The Prince of Wales is pleased to be able to welcome Ms. Markle to The Royal Family in this way.'

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May 2018: The Royal Wedding

Meghan and Harry wed on the 19th of May for a combined audience of 11.5 million people who tuned in to watch the ceremony. Meghan's gown was made by Clare Waight Keller, artistic director of the fashion house Givenchy which she later changed for a silk crepe dress by Stella McCartney. Her mother Doria Ragland attended the ceremony along with a host of celebrities including Meghan's former Suits cast and her close friends, George and Amal Clooney.

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May - October 2018: Married Life

Throughout May of 2018 Harry and Meghan made their first official appearances as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex. For her inaugural attendance to the Trooping of the Colour Meghan wore an off-the-shoulder dress, reportedly breaking royal protocal. In the following months the newlyweds made a number of public appearances including to Ireland to meet the country's officials. They also took a rumoured trip to visit George and Amal Clooney in Lake Como.

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October 2018: The Royal Baby Announcement

Speculation began during Princess Eugenie's wedding that Meghan was pregnant owing to her loose coat. The rumours were confirmed when Kensington Palace announced on the 15th of October 2018 that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex were expecting a child. The announcement also coincided with the first day of the Duke and Duchess of Sussex's official tour.

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October 2018: Meghan And Harry's First Royal Tour

In October Meghan and Harry departed for their 16-day Autumn royal tour visiting Australia, Tonga, Fiji and New Zealand (obviously featuring some serious style moments from the newly-appointed Duchess of Sussex/Style). By November, sources were telling news outlets that the couple were preparing to move to Frogmore cottage in Windsor in 2019. The couple spent the anniversary of their engagement, November the 27th apart, due to Harry being in Zambia.

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November 2018 - Present: Feud Rumours

As Meghan and Harry embarked on life as newlyweds there was less plainsailing, as controversy continued to follow closely on their heels. Meghan's family have continued to be the subject of unflattering media headlines and Thomas Markle gave interviews to the media about his distanced relationship with his daughter. Meanwhile Samantha Markle (Meghan's half sister, who also claims to be penning a book about the Duchess) was put on a fixated persons list after showing up at Kensington palace in January. Rumours of a froideur between Meghan and Kate were sparked shortly after Meghan and Harry's nuptials by reports that Meghan reduced Kate 'to tears' during challenging dress fittings with Princess Charlotte. In February, Thomas Markle leaks a handwritten letter from Meghan to the media in response to friends of the Duchess defending her in an interview and following numerous staff changes, rumours arise that Meghan and Harry's staff refer to Meghan by the nickname 'The difficult Duchess'.

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March 2019: The Royal Household's Split

In March 2019 it was confirmed that the Sussex and Cambridge's 'royal households' will split, meaning the couples will no longer share staff. Royal spokespersons confirm that Kate and William's staff team will stay in Kensington Palace while Meghan and Harry's staff will be based in Buckingham Palace, reflecting the location of their new residence of Frogmore cottage in Windsor. Representatives are quick to confirm this is a planned move, and not due to rumors of growing tensions between the couples.

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She adds, “As a TV and radio host, I’ve had calls from several listeners who had attempted suicide and had not told their husband or mother. That’s because they were despairing and feeling low and worthless, so it’s brave that Meghan is speaking out about her own struggles.

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“Hearing her say she was suicidal is absolutely devastating. There is still a stigma attached to mental health of all kinds, and when someone as high-profile and as well regarded as the Duchess of Sussex speaks out, that’s a good thing.

“While I don’t understand why she phoned HR rather than her GP, a friend or somebody at a charity, it is a shocking thing that they didn’t offer help. You could imagine Meghan felt it was a very clinical, cold atmosphere where everybody sticks to their role and nobody behaves like a human being, because that’s not a human way to act.

“I feel sorry for them more now after hearing their side. It is a lesson that, although someone may appear to have absolutely everything that anyone on earth could want – money, a mansion, glamour, love, a baby, another one on the way – they can still feel pretty unhappy and isolated.”

If you or someone you love is experiencing suicidal thoughts, you can phone the Samaritans 24 hours a day on 116 123

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