Geordie Shore star Gary 'Gaz' Beadle has turned to Instagram to update fans on his wife Emma McVey's upcoming surgery. The 29-year-old mum of two is set to undergo open heart surgery in the coming weeks; the latest, and arguably the biggest, battle with her turbulent health.
"Special" holiday before surgery
Thirty-four-year-old Gaz posted a picture of himself, Emma and their two children, son Chester and daughter Primrose, on holiday in Ibiza recently, letting fans know that the trip was a "special" holiday as it would be the last before Emma goes into hospital for open heart surgery.
He wrote, "family š ā¤ļø Such an important holiday for so many reasonsā¦ Primroses first holiday, chesterās first holiday he can remember, last holiday before chester starts school in september and last holiday before we get back and emma has her open heart surgeryā¦ itās been special @emma_jane1392Ā š„°."
"My babies are the only reason I manage to stay positive"
Emma recently opened up about her previous stint in hospital, following a āTIA (mini strokeā) ā witnessed by her husband and children.
She posted a picture of her in a hospital waiting room with her children, with the caption, āNot the normal favourites photo carousel but my babies are the only reason I manage to stay positive.
āFor the past few days Iāve been in hospital and itās been the worst experience of my life. Itās been hard for me, Gary, and our family. I had a TIA (mini stroke) caused by atrial fibrillation, and they saw the whole thing which breaks me.
āAs most of you probably know my health isnāt the best right now and my heart is on a waiting list to be fixed. Iām not writing anything for sympathy, I just try be as open as I can because I know it helps others going through similar things in life, and to be honest speaking to others going through similar has always helped me too.
āIāve cried so much, Iām now anxious and donāt really want to be around anyone and even more tablets to take daily. Iām trying to stay positive as I always do but I am taking a little time away from everything so if I donāt respond to messages or emails that is why ā¤ļø.ā
Husband Gaz Beadle shared the post on his own Instagram stories, adding, āTo have a mini stroke be in hospital for days be released on God knows how much medication and to still come back home and be how u are with the kids you are like wonder woman and so strongā¦ Long road ahead but after your heart surgery all be worth it ā¤ļø.
āJust glad to have you home š.ā
Emma McVey has been the target of cruel "skinny shaming" trolls
The model and social media star has been very open about her ongoing health issues in recent months.
When she met her Geordie Shore star husband Gary, model and influencer Emma McVey was a confident size 8-10 who enjoyed showing off her curves in figure-hugging clothes.
But since being diagnosed with a heart condition and the debilitating bowel disorder ulcerative colitis, she has lost weight and become the target of cruel āskinny shamingā trolls who have shockingly accused her of fabricating her illness to hide an eating disorder.
Mum-of-two Emma ā who is awaiting life-saving heart surgery ā tells Closer, āPeople judging each other on social media is an epidemic and even family members have no problem telling me I look a bit skinny. You wouldnāt tell an obese person, āYouāre looking a bit fatā, so why is it OK to body shame someone who is underweight?ā
āI feel like Iāve been reduced to a body and not a person"
She adds, āPeople on social media have messaged asking me what exercise I do and what I eat to stay so slim, but I tell them, āDonāt aspire to look like me. Iām like this because Iām unwell!ā Others have suggested Iām faking my health problems and wrongly assumed I have an eating disorder. Theyāll tell me I look gaunt and to āeat a burgerā.
āI feel like Iāve been reduced to a body and not a person. When I put on make-up and do my hair, people donāt realise Iām ill, but I do that to make myself feel better. I used to have a bum and chubby cheeks. Now Iām a bony size 4-6 and Iām straight up and down.ā
Like many new mums, Emma ā who lives near Leeds with Gaz and their children ā lost a few extra pounds after her first pregnancy while breastfeeding and struggling with lack of sleep. She eventually stopped nursing Primrose when she noticed she had become āso thinā after cutting out dairy products to manage her daughterās food intolerances.
Emma has been struggling with exhaustion and bouts of fainting
Struggling with exhaustion and bouts of fainting, Emma later had a series of blood tests, which were inconclusive. Then, last February, after being fitted with a heart monitor, the star was told she needed surgery to repair three holes in her heart, a problem she has likely had since childhood.
Her troubles worsened when, three weeks before her Cheshire wedding to Gary last June, she began suffering abdominal cramps and rectal bleeding. She kept her symptoms quiet until a few weeks later when her health deteriorated and she became too weak to stand. Emma was eventually diagnosed with colitis, an inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), which causes ulcers in the digestive tract ā a condition that affects roughly one in 420 people in the UK, including her father Carl, 53 ā and is treated with medication including steroids.
Although she ordinarily eats āplentyā ā including cereal, toast or porridge for breakfast, a banana mid morning, a sandwich or chicken and rice for lunch, sweets and chocolate treats after dinner plus meal replacement shakes for extra calories ā during a colitis episode, the weight will ādrop straight offā. Spicy, greasy, dairy and high-fibre foods all contribute to flare-ups.
āI feel like my lifeās been tipped upside down in the space of a year"
Speaking about the impact of her health woes over the past 12 months, Emma admits, āI feel like my lifeās been tipped upside down in the space of a year. Iāve just started therapy to try to deal with the emotional impact of the condition. I know that soon my heart will be sorted, which will give me more energy, and I hope to go into full remission with the colitis and one day be more stable. Right now though, itās hard to see a way out of it.ā
Since bravely going public with her colitis, which she says initially made her feel āembarrassed and awkwardā, Emma has been touched by the outpouring of support over social media, though she admits she sometimes struggles to ignore trolls who criticise her for being too thin. āIām quick to block people but Iāve bitten back sometimes,ā says Emma. āGary has stuck up for me before but, I have to say, the best thing is to ignore it.ā
Emma has been overlooked for modelling jobs because of her size
Emma recalls previously being overlooked for modelling jobs because of her size and says thin people should not be outcast from the body positivity movement.
āI know brands donāt want people looking up to skinny people, especially young girls but, at the same time, itās unfair for people who canāt help being skinny to be excluded,ā she says. āEverythingās so diverse and advertising campaigns will use all sizes and backgrounds but youāll never really see a skinny person on there.ā
To aid her recovery, Emma must get her colitis under control before having heart surgery. Doctors have also said she and GaryĀ cannot have a third child until her heart is repaired.
How to control symptoms
Keep a food diary
Writing down the meals you eat can be helpful, you should be able to identify problem foods and eliminate them from your diet.
Be open
Coping with ulcerative colitis can be hard to deal with and isolating, speaking to others with the condition plus those close to you about your symptoms can help.
Reduce stress
Although stress doesnāt cause ulcerative colitis, managing stress levels may reduce the frequency of symptoms. Regular exercise can boost mood, whereas breathing exercises, meditation and yoga can help you to relax.