REVEALED: What you and your partner’s sleeping style says about your relationship

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by Kayleigh Dray |
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Apparently, the way you and your partner sleep can be a secret way of saying "I love you", "I don’t trust you", or "we need to take a break"...

A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep - so it makes sense that the positions you and your partner adopt when you’re sleeping says a LOT about how you really feel about each other.

From spooning to sleeping back-to-back, experts say that our sleep body language is the ultimate way to assess what’s going on in our relationships.

So what does YOUR sleeping style say about you and your boo?

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REVEALED: What you and your partneru2019s sleeping style says about your relationship

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1) The spoon

Almost one third of couples apparently sleep facing the same direction in the spoon position, which is a very good thing.Because, according to experts, this is a pretty obvious sign of a happy relationship.Sexpert Tracey Cox told the Mail Online: "Few couples hug or spoon during sleep if they're sexually frustrated or resentful."The partner who's not eager for sex is worried any sign of affection will be interpreted as an invitation, the other gets the message any touch is unwelcome so stops trying."Patti Wood, author of Success Signals: A Guide To Reading Body Language, adds: "It's a very vulnerable position that's sexual, but says, 'I trust you.'"

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2) The loose spoon

This has been dubbed the more mature - and more secure - version - of spooning.Paul Rosenblatt, author of Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing, explains that couples start spooning a few inches apart when the novelty of bed-sharing wears off.Patti Wood adds: "It's like the big spoon saying, 'I've got your back, you can count on me,' but it's not as sexual as spooning closer."

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3) All tangled up

Only 4% of us sleep tangled up with our partners - and this basically boils down to legs and arms entwined.However Tracey Wood has told the Mail Online that this position, if continued too long after the honeymoon stage in your relationship, smacks of co-dependency.She said: "The pose of new lovers smack in the middle of the I-can't-believe-I've-found-you bit."If you're still doing it years in, however, there's a hint of Tweedledum-Tweedledee co-dependency."

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4) Touching backs

You might assume that sleeping back-to-back is a bad sign, but it's apparently one adopted by some of the strongest of couples.Why? Because it shows that you're relaxed and comfortable with one another.Speaking to The Telegraph, Professor Richard Wiseman, a psychologist of the University of Hertfordshire, said: "94% of couples who spent the night in contact with one another were happy with their relationship, compared to just 68% of those that didn't touch."The key issue is if you have a couple who used to sleep close together but are now drifting further apart in bed, then that could symptomatic of them growing apart when they are awake."

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5) Sleeping apart

You may both lie on different sides of the bed, but that isn't a bad thing at all.Psychologist Corrine Sweet told the Daily Mail that she calls this "the Liberty" and says it shows couples are "connected and secure in themselves," indicating "both closeness and independence in the relationship."

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6) Playing footsie

According to Wood, a pair of tangled legs shows that the two of you can't get enough of each other — even when you're sleeping."It means your lives are intertwined, that you function as a pair. You probably finish each other's sentences and take care of each other," she explained.

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7) Face to face

Patti Wood says that couples who sleep facing one another are unconsciously trying to look each other in the eye throughout the night.She adds: "If your partner suddenly starts facing you, there's a good chance he feels distant and wants to connect, or is hungry for more intimacy — especially if he presses his pelvis against yours."

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8) The nuzzle

If you sleep with your head on your partner's chest, or vice versa, it suggests that there is a high-level of trust in your relationship - and that you, as a couple, are nurturing and protective.

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9) Top to tail

This is, as you may have guessed, a sign of an unhealthy relationship.According to Tracey Cox, this sleeping position is most common in "post-argument or pre-divorce" couples, who can't face up to their problems.Might be time to invest in bunk beds, eh?

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