I’m dating a man younger than me – he’s 22 – and he said he was a virgin when we met. I thought he’d orgasm too fast, but he has the opposite problem. So, is he lying? I’ve asked him about it and he says it feels good – but he panics when he loses control. Kelly, by email
The poor guy! Not only does he have to confess to being a late bloomer – which many men would find embarrassing – but he’s being accused of making it up! I don’t think he’s lying. You may be the first person he has ever let go with, making him nervous. This anxiety could be causing him to stop when he feels himself going over the edge. The more loved and comfortable with you he feels, the more he’ll let go. Take things at his pace, with no pressure.